My Dad was a big proponent of kids' choosing their own punishment, but I think only after about age 5 or even later-- because they tend to be too hard on themselves. Your daughter actually picked a pretty suitable punishment... but the value of what she lost was much bigger than she'd realized when she chose it.
i think you did the right thing in holding firm, and you can remind her in the future (if something like this comes up again) that she didn't like how that went. That is how kids learn and form judgment-- weighing those factors, deciding to choose with those ideas in mind.
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My Dad was a big proponent of kids' choosing their own punishment, but I think only after about age 5 or even later-- because they tend to be too hard on themselves. Your daughter actually picked a pretty suitable punishment... but the value of what she lost was much bigger than she'd realized when she chose it.
i think you did the right thing in holding firm, and you can remind her in the future (if something like this comes up again) that she didn't like how that went. That is how kids learn and form judgment-- weighing those factors, deciding to choose with those ideas in mind.
It can be hard on the parents, though!