As if there isn't enough stress...

[garnigal]

It's been a big year for Derek and I. Things both wonderful and scary are happening.

In April we got a new roof that we're still paying for (steel shingles, so it'll pay for itself in the long run, but steel shingles, so holy hannah that bill....)

In June we started planning a wedding.

In July we told our families we were planning a wedding (way more stressful than just planning it, let me tell you. They're happy for us, but my side at least, has opinions. Derek's side are just pleased.)

And in the past week Derek's car died (quickly - transmission blew on the way to work), and I've gotten the word that Grandma won't make it to my wedding in November.

We've been told she has 4-6 weeks left - just enough time to show her my ring, hopefully my dress, and say goodbye. Hopefully, it's fast and relatively painless for her - it'll be very painful for all of us.

Comments

[saratinia.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry for the news you got. Hugs

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

Thanks. She looked pretty good yesterday, and she spotted the ring first off. I hand-delivered their wedding invitation as well, and she was happy to see it.

[kerkevik.livejournal.com]

Hi,

lost my elder brother to cancer recently; though it's been on the cards for about three years now. Also a friend is visiting his father in hospital every day; never knowing if he's going to see him the next day.

Paraphrasing Tara, It's never sudden; and it's always so.

LOL Ray.

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

Thanks Ray. We've been anticipating this for about a year, but it still isn't the news we wanted.

[jerusha]

*hugs* You have my sympathies. I know exactly what it's like to know your grandma won't be at your wedding, and that there's very little time left. I hope you can enjoy the time you have left with her. *more hugs*

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

Thank you J. We're having a pre-wedding gathering in Oct, and we're hoping she's strong enough for that.

[cindergal.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry about your grandmother. ::hugs::

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

Thanks Cindy. She's holding up pretty well, considering. She's back in her room at the retirement village with Grandpa, and he's trying to take care of her as much as he can.

[texanfan.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry! Show her the ring, it will make her smile. Say goodbye with no regrets.

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

I went up yesterday, and she noticed the ring right off. Apparently, nothing has affected her vision. :)

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

It's all cool - what gets done is what is important. Honestly, Derek's new business venture is doing more to screw up the 'getting stuff done' than Grandma. :)

[smwright.livejournal.com]

*hugs* It's always so much harder on those left behind. I'm sorry, hon. I'm glad you'll be able to share some of your joy with her just now though. It will hopefully bring both of you some peace.

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

Thanks Stephanie. She's doing pretty well so far, and mom and I will take my dress up to show her on the 20th when I get it.

[whatawookie.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your news. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help with your stress.

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

Thanks T. She's doing pertty well so far, and it's keeping Mom off my back. :)

[ctoan.livejournal.com]

Congrats on the wedding news.

The car news sucks.

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. My grandmother died in February and we had about the same amount of time to adjust to the knowledge. It's hard, and my thoughts are with you.

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

Thanks. We're pretty excited. I got my engagement ring last weekend and I can't stop looking at it.

Right now we're borrowing a Chevy Avalanche from Derek's brother. It's nice having a gear head with money in the family, even if it does suck gas.

One of the scariest things about Gran is it's starting me looking at my parents and in-laws with this in mind. My parents are only 61 and 56, but Derek's Dad is only 8 years younger than Grandma.

[jmbauhaus.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so sorry. I hope you don't mind if I include you and your grandma in my prayers. *hugs*

[garnigal.livejournal.com]

That would be greatly appreciated, thanks Jean.